3 Times When You Should Never Take Advice
“As I grow older, I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.” ~ Andrew Carnegie
When it comes to making good decisions, knowing when to take advice and when not to take advice can make all the difference in the world.
The Best Intentions
“The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding.” Albert Camus
Do you know people who are more than ready to give you advice? They hear about things going on in your life. Next, these people step in with their advice about what you need to do.
Often what these people have to say is purely their feelings about your experience. With the best intentions, they tell you how to solve a problem they have never had or even heard of before you discussed your problem.
The Question is “Why”
Simon Sinek says that great leaders start with Start with Why.
I had a job applicant tell me that he did not get a job, because, during an interview, he discussed some of his mistakes at his last job. I asked him why he would talk about those things. I could not see how the information benefited the perspective employer. The person had learned from the mistakes and did not plan to repeat those mistakes.
He told me that he had advice to be completely open and honest about his life when interviewing for a job.
It is commendable to be honest. However, a job interview is not a confessional or a therapy session. People fail interviews when they feed hiring managers irrelevant and negative personal information.
When You Have Time to Dig Deeper for the Facts
Certainly, sometimes taking advice is necessary. A patient in a desperate health condition may not have time to get a second opinion. However, patients with serious, protracted health conditions can benefit from taking the time to see a second or maybe or their or fourth doctor to find a solution to their problems. I have benefited from seeing more than one doctor about my health.
When I have the time to get the facts from more than one professional over an important issue, I take advantage of that opportunity.